Your wedding is now fixed, and while most of the shopping and significant events have been dealt with, one task remains unchecked — and that’s wedding vows! Yes, in many weddings. Especially ...

“We thought it would be funny to say we got married in Hell,” Bucky Delano tells PEOPLE Wendy Grossman Kantor is an award-winning journalist who has spent 20 years as a reporter for PEOPLE.

This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Tanya Pushkine, a 61-year-old wedding-vows writer and officiant known as "The Vow Whisperer" based in New York City, about her job. It has ...